I need some privacy, well I don’t know about you but when in a serious relationship does your partner need to know all of your secrets, your past and everything you do in 100% honestly? I don’t know maybe my past relationships worked differently since I was living in Canada. But you know like my boyfriend is always looking up dirt on me from the past, googling me, emails my old friends, talking to my family, hacking into my X-boyfriends emails. Basically I have no privacy even my laptop he searched threw and my cell phone he checks them on a regular basis.

 

He claims that there is no such thing as privacy in a relationship, but you wanna know what everything he finds out or I tell him he uses against me. Like he didn’t want me to get a credit card, anyways I’m an adult and I got a credit card with a very small amount on it. I didn’t tell him because I didn’t want him to be mad, however when I returned home on Friday with a new phone he began saying I have been taking money from someone, and I am cheating on him.

 

All of this because I got a phone, so I told him I got my salary and I put the cell phone on my credit card. Apparently he needs to be informed about any choice I make so I can seek his approval. Like maybe it’s a Canadian thing but I am a queen, and I don’t answer to anyone. Anyways so the fight escalated from there and we ended up in a fist fight, I burned him with a cigarette and he threw me against the wall, and so on and so on and so on. 

 

His older brother came in and beat him up for treating me this way, this is when I began to pack my stuff to leave. Of course he began to cry and apologies, please stay please stay it will never happen again. To be honest with you I have given up on trying to leave because it is pointless its better for me to stay there until I get my shit together. Like I do love him but my love is pretty much gone at this point.

 

He says I never share with him (my feelings and such) and I don’t care about him and I don’t show others that I love him. Well u want to know what I’m not that type of person I don’t worship anyone. In my life I am Number One when I get married then is when everything is his business and we then truly share a life together. But just because other girls will treat there boyfriends like Gods doesn’t mean I will.

 

Anyways do you feel that when in a relationship you must lay all you cards out on the table? Or it is normal not to share every detail of your past, present and future with your loved one?

So my boyfriend went away for a week to Lebanon I was supposed to go visit him this weekend however he returned early. He got me some nice gifts and stuff. Anyways while he was away he let me use his cell phone since he broke mine “mistakenly” anyways I gave his # out to 3 of my friends and before returning the phone to him I cleared all the history. Anyways I guess that was a bad idea since he began asking me who called his phone and who had his # etc.

Like grow up buddy if I HAD a phone I wouldn’t have to give them your number. You know what it’s not the end of the world for people to call me. I feel like he only wants me to talk to people in our group; I don’t know if I already explained how the group works well anyways it’s kind of like a cult if you will. Once you’re accepted you can never leave, you can’t hang out with your old friends; you can’t invite your old friends to hang out with the group. Unless of course the friends are girls in that case they have to be bitches so the guys can sleep with them.

 

I personally am not going to put my friends to such “fuck and chuck” behavior. So I never invite them over, no worries same goes for family. Anyways so these rules only of course apply to the girls in the group. Like sometime I wish I could leave but they are all very good to me. We are all very close and it’s nice to know in such a whore country as UAE you can find true friends. All of these precautions are just to make sure people don’t think the girls in our group are whores or bitches. In UAE it’s not good to be seen out and about with lots of different people, or give your number out very often. Let’s look at it this way.

 

Dos and don’t for living in UAE:

 

Don’t give out your Phone Number a lot.

Don’t be seen hanging out with a lot of different people (especially in clubs)

Don’t look at men very much (they assume you want them)

Always wear heals and have fresh nail polish on.

Always Shave/ wax your arms

Always be completely lady like at all times.

Never make your self a drink (someone will always help a lady out)

Never got for Shisha just you and a guy (especially in Ajman [guys only take whore out for these kind of things])

Never Call a guy unless you are returning there phone call.

If a Guy Calls you late it means he’s treating you like a bitch/whore.

Always be super busy for guys, even leave half way through the date or meeting up with him.

Don’t Talk to much or give the guy much attention

If you don’t speak Arabic or are not Arabic don’t throw words like “Yallah, Wallah, Sharmoot, etc.” in sentences at random times (you look like a wanna-be and its super annoying to people who actually are Arabic).

Never drink to much alcohol while out

Never go to an After Party (they are for fucking) unless you are with some close friends.

Never have sex with them or do anything with them for a long time.

Never go over to a guys house to drink (he wants to get you drunk and fuck you)

 

If they call you only once in a while to hang out and you have had sex before than he only wants you over to have sex. If you are a bitch people will treat you like one so please have some respect for yourself and smarten up. FYI Local guys don’t take relationships with non-Arab women seriously so don’t go that road either.

Ironically enough, my week got a little bit worst yesterday while at work. The work was fine; however someone mid day hacked onto my hotmail and changed the password. No problem I went into it and I changed it back via “alternative email” easily solved, right? Well I wish is was only that simple, after getting back into my inbox again I went to delete some junk mail, then al of a sudden I was on a page I had never seen before. Apparently I now needed my parent’s permission to now access my hotmail; however I’m almost 22 years old. I don’t think I should need my parents permission do you? So I tried to access it my claiming I’m my own parent, but this didn’t work because I needed to give them a credit card number, and I was not ready to put my credit card number online. How would I say it my Visa is an Online Virgin and I plan on keeping it this way.

 

So I tried to prove I was in fact an adult after all and they required me to fax hotmail a copies of everything and details to my account. But I did not have my passport with me to fax it, so I thought I would be smart and beat the system by resetting my password again. This time I tried using my security question to reset my email’s password. However someone had changed the answer. So I reverted back to the “alternative email” as my only solution to solve my issues with my hotmail account. I clicked the button and waited for about a half an hour. After not receiving it in my inbox on my other email, I began to panic; I tried logging on again using my changed password from my first attempt of accessing my account. Usually it would bring me to that “Parental Permission” page however this time is said my password was incorrect.

 

So it seems my Tricky hacker had now changed my “alternative email” along with everything else on my account. I then discovered this hacked had gone onto my facebook changed my password on there as well and deleted my account. Unbelievable, I can’t even request a new password because my email has been hacked as well. All this time I have been logged into MSN, so I can see I’m getting email however no one is opening them. Why would someone hack my email and not read any of the emails themselves?

 

Anyways I called Microsoft support and apparently Microsoft doesn’t deal with hotmail, funny since I thought they were all the same company. They emailed me on my work email and sent me a link, after that I had to fill in a forum to file a complaint since apparently Hotmail/MSN has no customer service other than via email. After filling in and sending off the forum I decided to talk to an online help representative, Peter. Peter was also no help since he couldn’t tell me how long it would take for someone form hotmail to get back to me.

 

This morning at work I find an email from hotmail asking me to fill in another forum that basically I tell them all my account information, secret question, alternative email, any created folders, address book contact, msn contact, etc. anyways once I completed this I am still waiting on them to fix my hotmail and account so I can get my facebook back as well as everything else I was registered to that this hacker messed up.

 

Why would someone do this?

I know its a little stereo typical for a woman to be talking about her abusive boyfriend. however funny story i had no idea i was being abused until i read an article about the subject. 

So my boyfriend began of great, i actually started living with his brother him and my friend Yasmin. I suppose everyone knew he liked me so a month or so after that we began dating. everything was great, then he began checking my phone and computer, if i had called anyone he would yell at me, if i had photo’s of my X he would get upset. anyways later on he ended up breaking my phone in half and breaking my sim card so i couldnt call anyone anymore.

There have only been 3 physical incidents, the first of which i packed my things and was going to leave. but of course everyone intervened and made promises. it was nothing serious but still, so i changed the password on my laptop and when i refused to tell him (but offered to let him use it) he smashed my lag with the laptop and threw it on the ground. thank god my MacBook is fine this is an expensive machine. 

He likes to take alot of drugs and get fucked up then get angry at me for any reason he can find. i am not allowed to have my own friends i cant go out without him unless to work. he even got a job 5 minutes walk away from mine. so he can come see me on my break and lunch time.

Once he began yelling at me while i was on my lunch break. while heading back to work he followed me and refused to leave screaming at me in the hallway. only the secretary knew, i even had to ask someone to call security. 

Most of our fights are over me and the way i am. of course everything is my fault, i am not allowed to have privacy any time he even come and opens the door to the bathroom while i am using it. im in another country far away from Canada and i have no family here. i am not to sure what to do since he kinda made it so i cant have my own friends.

We rented a car together while his is being fixed and he wont let me drive it anywhere even to go get some mcdonalds. i am never given a moment alone and if i bring up something he did to upset me. he makes a fight over something.

What to do what to do???

 

 I moved to Dubai, UAE and I discovered a whole new world. now to be honest with you in the Middle East, anyone who is not an Arab is considered a whore. Yes I know sad but true, however I began to learn from the pros how to catch a man. For those of you who live in North America or Europe, you will know that yes most of the time you will pay for things when your dating a guy and of course sex is a must have in any relationship.

 

However picture this, these women here rarely have sex and never have to pay for anything. In fact they get everything paid for, from food to cloths to cars. Imagine this happening in Canada it would be a dream come true, instead of dating some old guy who probably married women here date handsome and successful men there own age. The men here worship there women, at first I couldn’t understand why, over time though I learned the secrets to achieving this.

 

Like I previously stated North American and European women usually have sex with there boyfriends before marriage. Now I’m not saying stop having sex, however don’t give it up as easy. Also minimize the amount of guy friends you have. For example, when I moved here I went out with a few friends I made mostly guys, and it was ok however I learned later that when your seen out with a different guys people begin to assume you are a whore or easy.

 

Of course everything depends on the type of guy friends you have as well, get to know there reputation before hanging out with him. It’s of course not good to be seen with a womanizer, correct? Now I have my own group of friends, I am always seen with the same people, and all my friends respect me. When I go out I never talk to anyone outside the group unless they are introduced by a friend. Some of the girls that come are whores as I stated before girls who are seen out with a lot of guys. I don’t even acknowledge them; yes I admit I become a bit of a snob when it comes to these things.

 

Here my friend’s book tables and order bottles of liquor, I never pour myself a drink someone always pours it for me. I never pay for anything either to be honest with you everyone treats me like a lady, when we are out. However when I return home I can be my relaxing friendly self again, It’s nice finally I have a great group of friends and though the ups and downs we are always there for each other.  

 

Seriously women need to learn how to act classy, then men will respect you and treat you like a queen. Whores are treated like whores, remember this.