So my boyfriend went away for a week to Lebanon I was supposed to go visit him this weekend however he returned early. He got me some nice gifts and stuff. Anyways while he was away he let me use his cell phone since he broke mine “mistakenly” anyways I gave his # out to 3 of my friends and before returning the phone to him I cleared all the history. Anyways I guess that was a bad idea since he began asking me who called his phone and who had his # etc.

Like grow up buddy if I HAD a phone I wouldn’t have to give them your number. You know what it’s not the end of the world for people to call me. I feel like he only wants me to talk to people in our group; I don’t know if I already explained how the group works well anyways it’s kind of like a cult if you will. Once you’re accepted you can never leave, you can’t hang out with your old friends; you can’t invite your old friends to hang out with the group. Unless of course the friends are girls in that case they have to be bitches so the guys can sleep with them.

 

I personally am not going to put my friends to such “fuck and chuck” behavior. So I never invite them over, no worries same goes for family. Anyways so these rules only of course apply to the girls in the group. Like sometime I wish I could leave but they are all very good to me. We are all very close and it’s nice to know in such a whore country as UAE you can find true friends. All of these precautions are just to make sure people don’t think the girls in our group are whores or bitches. In UAE it’s not good to be seen out and about with lots of different people, or give your number out very often. Let’s look at it this way.

 

Dos and don’t for living in UAE:

 

Don’t give out your Phone Number a lot.

Don’t be seen hanging out with a lot of different people (especially in clubs)

Don’t look at men very much (they assume you want them)

Always wear heals and have fresh nail polish on.

Always Shave/ wax your arms

Always be completely lady like at all times.

Never make your self a drink (someone will always help a lady out)

Never got for Shisha just you and a guy (especially in Ajman [guys only take whore out for these kind of things])

Never Call a guy unless you are returning there phone call.

If a Guy Calls you late it means he’s treating you like a bitch/whore.

Always be super busy for guys, even leave half way through the date or meeting up with him.

Don’t Talk to much or give the guy much attention

If you don’t speak Arabic or are not Arabic don’t throw words like “Yallah, Wallah, Sharmoot, etc.” in sentences at random times (you look like a wanna-be and its super annoying to people who actually are Arabic).

Never drink to much alcohol while out

Never go to an After Party (they are for fucking) unless you are with some close friends.

Never have sex with them or do anything with them for a long time.

Never go over to a guys house to drink (he wants to get you drunk and fuck you)

 

If they call you only once in a while to hang out and you have had sex before than he only wants you over to have sex. If you are a bitch people will treat you like one so please have some respect for yourself and smarten up. FYI Local guys don’t take relationships with non-Arab women seriously so don’t go that road either.

I know its a little stereo typical for a woman to be talking about her abusive boyfriend. however funny story i had no idea i was being abused until i read an article about the subject. 

So my boyfriend began of great, i actually started living with his brother him and my friend Yasmin. I suppose everyone knew he liked me so a month or so after that we began dating. everything was great, then he began checking my phone and computer, if i had called anyone he would yell at me, if i had photo’s of my X he would get upset. anyways later on he ended up breaking my phone in half and breaking my sim card so i couldnt call anyone anymore.

There have only been 3 physical incidents, the first of which i packed my things and was going to leave. but of course everyone intervened and made promises. it was nothing serious but still, so i changed the password on my laptop and when i refused to tell him (but offered to let him use it) he smashed my lag with the laptop and threw it on the ground. thank god my MacBook is fine this is an expensive machine. 

He likes to take alot of drugs and get fucked up then get angry at me for any reason he can find. i am not allowed to have my own friends i cant go out without him unless to work. he even got a job 5 minutes walk away from mine. so he can come see me on my break and lunch time.

Once he began yelling at me while i was on my lunch break. while heading back to work he followed me and refused to leave screaming at me in the hallway. only the secretary knew, i even had to ask someone to call security. 

Most of our fights are over me and the way i am. of course everything is my fault, i am not allowed to have privacy any time he even come and opens the door to the bathroom while i am using it. im in another country far away from Canada and i have no family here. i am not to sure what to do since he kinda made it so i cant have my own friends.

We rented a car together while his is being fixed and he wont let me drive it anywhere even to go get some mcdonalds. i am never given a moment alone and if i bring up something he did to upset me. he makes a fight over something.

What to do what to do???

So Currently I do in fact have a boyfriend, something you need to learn about me is I always have a boyfriend. Well mostly always I expect my men to Worship me. When I was younger I created a list of characteristics a man had to have before I would even consider dating him. Simple things like; being older than me, being taller than me, either is in university or working, has a car, etc. You get the idea, well this list has never done me wrong, and it’s true everyone has a type.

 

Well I feel everyone should have a list like this it makes dating simpler.  Like how many people do you know are dating someone or who has dated someone who isn’t up to there standards? Such as a smart university girl dating a lazy jobless man who still lives in his parents home. Yes I have seen this and in fact it ruined the girl’s life, she dropped out of university to work, because he couldn’t seem to keep a job. Years later and after one kid she finally left him because it took her that long to realize he would always be this way.

 

The fact of the matter is you must not lower your standards, think of those women who put up with there boyfriends beating on them because he is supporting them. I know a few of these to, and all I have to say is why? Why do these women put themselves in these situations? They need to be more responsible for themselves, I always have my own money and my own things and if things get bad I always have a place to stay and go for support.

 

Stop allowing yourselves to be victim, get control and get a clue. The second a man ever hits me I would leave them no questions asked. This is what makes me in control, my boyfriend worships me, and he is bought me a Porsche, he pays for the rent, the food, everything. I have a good job I am an executive and I work very hard, I save my money incase something ever happened and of course to buy things for myself every once and a while.

 

Also it is also a good idea to always keep a back up; you know what I mean; a guy who worships you from a far because you are not single. If you ever need anything the back up will jump though hoops to help you..

 

I am in my early twenties my boyfriend is also around my age, he works hard to make me happy. I do what I can to make him happy but to be honest he loves me a lot more than I love him. He wants to marry me however marriage at this point isn’t in my game plan. If only you knew how many men have asked to marry me you would be quite shocked.

 

Remember men will only respect you as much as you respect yourself.